tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2576412671838090092.post565424628593817122..comments2024-03-14T22:36:59.951-05:00Comments on 504 Main by Holly Lefevre: Family for Sale?Holly Lefevrehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01682463489134875301noreply@blogger.comBlogger29125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2576412671838090092.post-16599410691987975732009-12-10T12:21:35.225-06:002009-12-10T12:21:35.225-06:00So nice to know dysfunction doesnt discriminate. ...So nice to know dysfunction doesnt discriminate. After my grandmother's passing 2 years ago, our family is on a downward decline. But I am determined to give my girls great christmas memories whatever it takes. Thanks for the HONEST blogging. There is a lot of sugar-coating in blogworld!! I am a new follower, will be back!Gina Siscohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18147299869138788888noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2576412671838090092.post-58217572773159101872009-12-08T19:52:53.147-06:002009-12-08T19:52:53.147-06:00Holly, thank you so much for sharing your history,...Holly, thank you so much for sharing your history, your hurts, your hopes and wishes. This was a touching and thought provoking read. I think many of us can relate to the way the big-family-gathering has deteriorated over the years. Your eloquence and big-heartedness really radiated here.Jenn Ericksonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05484708374808620986noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2576412671838090092.post-76367723011234413832009-12-06T11:38:11.696-06:002009-12-06T11:38:11.696-06:00your christmas plans, both real and imagined sound...your christmas plans, both real and imagined sound GREAT!Margohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15813140073356995390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2576412671838090092.post-78576004129656915432009-12-06T03:24:53.654-06:002009-12-06T03:24:53.654-06:00Aw, what a cute post. I loved it!
http://candyfl...Aw, what a cute post. I loved it!<br /><br />http://candyflosspersie.blogspot.com/Caitlin @ Candyfloss & Persiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10643817536737845811noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2576412671838090092.post-62015062453394679672009-12-05T22:34:46.329-06:002009-12-05T22:34:46.329-06:00I think that would be nice. Why does money have to...I think that would be nice. Why does money have to get in the way all the time? Think how many burrito's you could get if money were no object~!?Frugal Vickihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14215233645206729306noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2576412671838090092.post-70945835237122961322009-12-05T20:49:36.197-06:002009-12-05T20:49:36.197-06:00What killer shoes, they'd destroy me, but it w...What killer shoes, they'd destroy me, but it would be totally worth it. ;)Andreahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06972798018825603047noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2576412671838090092.post-9383162099976796932009-12-04T21:30:47.136-06:002009-12-04T21:30:47.136-06:00I like how you put the shoes in there! I digg '...I like how you put the shoes in there! I digg 'em. The photos are terrific. There's something about old photos that draw me in. I don't have many fond memories of Christmas either.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2576412671838090092.post-33574595976600391062009-12-04T18:51:05.794-06:002009-12-04T18:51:05.794-06:00That was a great one. I loved the pictures. Especi...That was a great one. I loved the pictures. Especially the mother/daughter outfits. You and your mom are so pretty!<br />PS I vote Maui!Traciehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10612857982151448455noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2576412671838090092.post-90991496549176037742009-12-04T17:46:30.844-06:002009-12-04T17:46:30.844-06:00I wasn't aware of your family history. But th...I wasn't aware of your family history. But the positive side of it is that your children won't experience it because you are creating positive memories for them.<br /><br />I think your Christmas traditions are great ideas that your kids will cherish when they are parents. <br /><br />I can't say that I share your love of oyster stew, although it is my dad's favorite food. <br /><br />We always have spaghetti and sweet sausage for Christmas Eve dinner, and cinnamon rolls on Christmas morning.Mattyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13979949404266325705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2576412671838090092.post-16558771537703826392009-12-04T15:43:10.995-06:002009-12-04T15:43:10.995-06:00I thought if you were going to follow me (twice), ...I thought if you were going to follow me (twice), I should at least follow you once! Your post made me a bit sad for you, although I never had that kind of huge Christmas. My dad had one brother who never was home for Christmas, he spent it with his wife's family. I have 2 cousins that I've only met a few times because of that. My mom was an only child. We did have the 4 of us, and both sets of grandparents at our house every year. It was wonderful. As my sister and I married, we kept going to mom's and the grandparents came until we were well into our 30's. My parents moved to Florida about 15 years ago and my sis and I took turns having the parents and both our families until 2007. My daughter graduated from college and moved to Florida. Everything got messed up. Our years and years of traditional family Christmas went right out the window. My son can't leave town, he works here. He also has 2 children under the age of 3. My sister still has one in junior high and her 3 older ones can't afford to go anywhere but home for the holiday. My parents don't really want to drive 1000 miles in the winter and my daughter works for Disney...on Christmas Day. So...we head to Florida and spend a couple of weeks in a hotel with a $10 Walgreen's tree and my daughter and parents. I'll be having Christmas here for my son and grandsons next weekend and I won't get to see my nieces and nephew. It isn't perfect and I miss tradition...but, as our kids grow up you have to make choices and I won't leave my 25 year old daughter alone on Christmas. Besides, we spent Christmas Day at the pool last year and dinner was in a restaurant with no clean-up. It isn't all that bad!Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03190096917851087676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2576412671838090092.post-64785462129222698102009-12-04T15:13:00.179-06:002009-12-04T15:13:00.179-06:00FYI - I don't hold my grudge against the holid...FYI - I don't hold my grudge against the holidays just becasue of the family situation. If we did all get together, it would probably just reinforce the idea that we shouldn't all be together! So I have started many of our (our meaning the kids, hubby and me - whovere else may come along can join in or go sit outside!) traditions...we have spaghetti on Xmas eve, light a fire, decorate sugar cookies, each kid gets a gift, we read the Night before Xmas, watch the Polar Express. In the am we have scones - after our Treasure Hunt of course. I sound like a bigger Grinch than I really am in this post. I am SO VERY THANKFUL for what I do have!Holly Lefevrehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01682463489134875301noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2576412671838090092.post-68562070215265089162009-12-04T12:14:49.079-06:002009-12-04T12:14:49.079-06:00I agree with Polly!! Now you have the opportunity ...I agree with Polly!! Now you have the opportunity to create something it totally fit with you and your family. If your extended family wants to participate - good for them...if not, their loss!<br /><br />~WMWorking Mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02155998078498583440noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2576412671838090092.post-8124760539178095602009-12-04T10:47:04.461-06:002009-12-04T10:47:04.461-06:00My perfect Christmas would just leave out all the ...My perfect Christmas would just leave out all the angst and stress about who goes to who's house; and who should cook versus who should clean . . . That would be where the "money is no object" part would thrill me: hello, caterer! Come on in, Maid Brigade!"<br /><br />I'm back at the blogging, Holly -- come visit when you have the time!<br /><br />Liz @ twenty-firstcenturyhousewife.blogspot.comLiz in Virginiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01255930581089283782noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2576412671838090092.post-30941489785349722762009-12-04T08:31:41.707-06:002009-12-04T08:31:41.707-06:00It's a shame you can't have the perfect Ch...It's a shame you can't have the perfect Christmas with your extended family. You are making such wonderful memories for your own children, though. Focus on that and enjoy you holidays to the fullest!Willoughbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15260987219988824912noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2576412671838090092.post-69590023332754641702009-12-04T08:31:26.060-06:002009-12-04T08:31:26.060-06:00Holly, thanks for sharing this...what a wonderful ...Holly, thanks for sharing this...what a wonderful reminder that despite how imperfect our memories of Christmas past might be (and mine are pretty rough too) it's up to us NOW to create a pleasant, love-filled, fun experience for our children and families...to start NEW traditions.<br />I hope you all have a beautiful Christmas!<br />Kelli @ SustainingCreativityKellihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00243867972491277139noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2576412671838090092.post-49479960073150405852009-12-04T08:19:03.632-06:002009-12-04T08:19:03.632-06:00Interesting post. I agree you can never go wrong ...Interesting post. I agree you can never go wrong with a Maui trip.Slamdunkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13087161268629251860noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2576412671838090092.post-27285927240677365992009-12-04T03:03:44.789-06:002009-12-04T03:03:44.789-06:00Now is the time to create your own traditions - yo...Now is the time to create your own traditions - your children will love you for it xxxPollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17237061502041133837noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2576412671838090092.post-27202559403739375272009-12-03T23:40:51.478-06:002009-12-03T23:40:51.478-06:00That would be an awesome dream Christmas, but I th...That would be an awesome dream Christmas, but I think your real Christmas sounds awesome!KKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10815049701010983875noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2576412671838090092.post-43080542039617134962009-12-03T21:19:36.286-06:002009-12-03T21:19:36.286-06:00I agree with Istillfab, it is a little sad. But on...I agree with Istillfab, it is a little sad. But on the other hand I am the trouble maker who seems to cause all the discontent at holidays and I always wish I wasn't such an idiot and if I am going to keep being an idiot stop attending family events. :o)<br /><br />oh well. I am happy you have friends and by extention their families.Rock, Paper, Scissorshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16112149211926858731noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2576412671838090092.post-29439947753179296172009-12-03T21:07:05.165-06:002009-12-03T21:07:05.165-06:00It's kind of funny (and sad)...our "bah h...It's kind of funny (and sad)...our "bah humbugs" have their roots in the same soil! <br /><br />I know what you mean about getting together just to see that it won't work. However...maybe that wouldn't be such a good thing. Maybe you should take the memories that you have (for whatever they're worth) and cherish them as they are. Why mess with a good thing, right? And make this Christmas and every Christmas hereafter about YOUR family...you and hubs and kiddos. Make sure that history has no reason to repeat itself!!!<br /><br />That's the best advice I've got...from one grinch to another. I'll try to take it myself!!!Raoulysgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08656303112052173326noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2576412671838090092.post-52907096758589007832009-12-03T20:35:51.254-06:002009-12-03T20:35:51.254-06:00I didn't even THINK of MAUI! what a fantastic...I didn't even THINK of MAUI! what a fantastic Christmas that would be. Thanks for sharing your story and your dream.Louriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05477223472789865063noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2576412671838090092.post-68202940664615321462009-12-03T19:46:20.533-06:002009-12-03T19:46:20.533-06:00this makes me a little sad.. but i know what you m...this makes me a little sad.. but i know what you mean. My dad's side of the family sort of fell apart... and my mom's side is very small... It's hard to make new traditions when the old ones don't seem so far in the past.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2576412671838090092.post-66356446048680381172009-12-03T19:00:33.583-06:002009-12-03T19:00:33.583-06:00The last couple days brought out a longing for the...The last couple days brought out a longing for the way things use to be. I can remember holidays, birthdays, and just about every weekend being together. Then *poof* it all went away for many of the same reasons you listed.<br /><br />I too wish for my girls to have that closeness to their family, but I doubt it will ever happen. SO I say lets meet in Maui!MJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09006052863535401013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2576412671838090092.post-46496909837312960922009-12-03T18:09:34.538-06:002009-12-03T18:09:34.538-06:00OOooh! MAUI! MAUI!!
I am so there! :) Nice works...OOooh! MAUI! MAUI!!<br /><br />I am so there! :) Nice workshop.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07271472544623395546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2576412671838090092.post-15900833767105550232009-12-03T17:45:55.836-06:002009-12-03T17:45:55.836-06:00As hard as Family is they do give you some great m...As hard as Family is they do give you some great memories :)Lissaloohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00616376497958607122noreply@blogger.com